the other three letter word

Mom.......

Well, lets just say since November 2008 my mom has officially been off the deep end. I think I have shared some in previous posts, but to recap: She used to be a correctional counselor at the same prison in which my husband in now employed. Her main job was to teach classes to inmates on how to refrain from drugs and alcohol on the outside and also about relationships and family. Well, she kinda fell for her T.A......yes, an inmate! Everyone that knew her were shocked to learn about her new relationship. These were the type of men she would tell my sister and myself to stay away from as a protective mother and now she was with a man that has spent his whole adult life in prison for burglary, possession of a stolen vehicle and battery (to a pregnant person). WHAT?!?! How can she think this is ok?

Her relationship with him became public in April 2009, shortly after he got out of prison. Since April of 2009 when he got out, he has been back in prison three times and she remains loyal to him. At one point he was re-arrested for domestic violence to my mother. Yes, she remains with him.  I don't understand it and am currently in counseling to try to figure it all out and learn how to establish boundaries with her and our relationship.  Don't get me wrong, this is killing me on the inside. This is the woman who for so many years knew more about me than my best friends. We have been through soooo much together and to have her walk away from me and my sister for a man like this sickens me to the core.  The woman that I talk to once a week is not the mom I grew up with or the mom I know and love. She has been taken from me and our family by a worthless man and I don't know what to do to help her, but since she is a 50 year old woman I guess I have to let her live out her life with the choices she is making.

I can't let this get me down during the best time of my life-I am married to the love of my life, have a house to maintain and job that is stress free. I have three (yes three) dogs that love their mama.  I will not let this man win.

The hot and heavy three letter word.

SEX. (note for those in cyber land, I am blushing now).

As a married couple, we do have sex a few times a week but it seems like the act of it is so routine, nothing changes. We do the same positions every time and in the same order. blah....although don't get me wrong, "doggie style" just does something good for this girl and her man. ;)   To spice things up we are considering purchasing a little something that we both are interested in trying out.

No baby making yet, although I did have a scare this last week. I have switched birth control pills three times in the last three months. The one I had been taking is not covered by our insurance, so I started one called Mononessa (a $10 script) in September-not good, gained 7 pounds in 1 month and broke out in acne like I was in 8th grade all over again!  I called my gyno and she prescribed Kariva in October- a $30/month b.c. but one that should be better for me and my body.  So, switching that many times and knowing b.c. takes like 3 weeks to get into your system once you start a new kind was not on my mind all during all of those wonderful escapades with my hubby.  Needless to say, this past week my breasts were really tender and I was nauseous three days in a row, took a test, it was negative. I am not done with my b.c. for this month yet so if I don't start my period in a week or so, another test will be taken.  We are thinking of maybe starting to try after our first anniversary in July so we have time to pay some bills off and get our house updated a little more.

Well, that's about all I can share at this time about the sex of this young, married couple. I am pretty sure Andy would kill me if he knew I just shared all of this :)

once again, slacking on the blog.

So it seems I only update once in a blue moon, and it seems I am not going to change.  :)

Since the last post in June we are married!  The day was beautiful and went off without a hitch, except that the ceremony wasn't recorded, huge sad face at this.  I guess it is my fault because I didn't want to pay anyone to tape it for us professionally.  I instead had someone from the church set up a video camera on the balcony so the most important parts would be seen (vows, unity candle,etc.).  Problem: the guy that set up the camera did not tell the guy at the sound board that it was indeed hooked up so he did not start the recording so we don't have a video.  Oh well, if that is the worst thing that could have happened on that day, I am completely ok.
Pictures from our big day:

We have been married 4 months now! It is hard to believe that I have been his wife for that long already.  Although not much really changed with our relationship because we have been together almost 7 years and lived together a year and a half before the big day. The only thing we seem to struggle with is our time spent together and making it count. He works as a correctional officer at the prison in our town, which in the economy is a great job with great benefits.  We do not take that for granted at all. What does suck is that he is low man on the pole and started at 1st shift and is now on 3rd shift.  He goes to work at 10:30pm and is home at 7am. I go to work at 10:30am and am off at 6:30pm (this shift will only last until the find someone permanent for this area of the clinic).  Anywho, the problem: it seems that when we are both home and awake at the same time he is either watching tv or on the computer. We can't seem to figure out how to spend good, quality time together (aka, what to do with our time together).  I am not sure how to fix this issue.  Another issue, on his days off (Tuesday and Wednesday) he spends the day hanging out with his guy friends and then comes home and watches tv or is on the computer. Wednesday night is poker night so I don't seem him after 8pm.......

To try to fix this growing problem I have officially declared Tuesday nights as "our" night. He is to stay home and we are to spend time together as husband and wife, no tv or computer.  Any other ideas on how to share our time together??